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Mid Year, Male Friends and All |
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Written by Chola Lungu
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 Wow... its mid year already? Is time flying, or is time flying? I celebrated another birthday with no cake for the first time in many of years. I guess maybe the number of candles would only have depressed me. Don't worry; I'm not at that point yet. I'm excited about getting older yet I worry about wrinkles, arthritis and teeth-loss in my old age. It's called worrying about tomorrow when tomorrow has enough worries of its own.
In the past 3 months I can tell you about 5 people my age that committed suicide for one reason or another. I don't have explanations for their actions but each case is unique and also worrying. Why is suicide fast becoming the number one 'solution' for our youth's problems? Don't quote me but I think "we're not listening to each other", we're all a bunch of yappy self-absorbed humans who don't take time to simply listen. Can we blame our upbringing or society? Aren't there any structures in place that help the youth with problems that are so bad, that the only solution is to end their lives?
I don't have any answers right now, but I can only say that there are a hundred and one solutions to every problem. When you have a problem, open your eyes and look around, there's always someone out there who has it worse than you. Life has its ups and downs; you gain experience in the downs that provide a ladder for the ups! Think about it…
Bout Dudes
You've known him for a long time, cried on his shoulder, helped him get dates and loved him - like a brother. Now he says he's in love with you?? What do you do? Can males and females be extremely close without falling in love? I guess they can, but don't quote me when I say, there must have been a time or two when you looked at that close-male-brother-friend of yours and thought of him as a perfect partner. The funny thing about love is it's immeasurable and you cannot (often) control how much of it to put into a relationship. It's easy with family, I just love them unconditionally though I do remember as a child being so upset I hated my brother and sister, but that was temporary. Without drifting off too much let me say every time you give love you take a risk, the risk is that you don't know how much the other people will put in. You might put in your all and the other person might put in just an arm or a leg…ouch hey? So now this guy I love as a brother says he's in love with me. I'm smiling in shock and also upset, I feel betrayed and vulnerable. He's been there for me, seen me at my worst and at my best. He cried with me when life was bad and danced with me when all was good. So, I manage to whisper a 'thank you'. His face falls and he asks what I think. A croaky 'nothing' escapes my lips. His face falls even more; I smile at the foolish thought of his face finally touching the ground if I give another answer he doesn't like. Silence…for half a minute, then he takes my hand and looks into my eyes. I've looked into these eyes many times before, not for this long though and I see something I'd probably ignored many times before. I'm shaking; now, I'm upset and even disappointed. I close my eyes, shut them tight, a tear streams down my cheek and I rehearse it in my mind, how to tell him - "I love you like a brother"!!
Quote
"When we look at a statue of someone great we think they've got something we don't. We are trained to think that only a tiny percentage of us have the stuff it takes to be a hero. Not many of us will cure any diseases or slay any dragons, but every single one of us, is called to be king, a queen, a hero in our ordinary lives. We don't build statues to worship the exceptional life, we build them to remind ourselves what is possible in our own" -Unknown Author-
Beauty tip
Have you tried everything to get rid of your zits and pimples? Your only problem might be dirty hands and oily hair. If you have a habit of touching your face, keeping your chin on your palm or squeezing pimples you're just loading your facial skin with more germs. You hands carry a lot of germs so try and keep them away from your face. Also, if you oil your hair often and your hair is combed to the sides of your face you're putting more dirt on your face. Shampoo your hair, use less oil or change your hairstyle!!
Final word
I hope I haven't left you feeling low, but some things have to be said. I hope you, my sistaz are looking after yourselves, drinking 8 glasses of water a day and exercising. Remember you only have "that" kind of time to think about YOU so don't use it thinking about the nasty comment someone passed about you or wishing you were taller, thinner or lighter. Do something for someone, 'ask not what your sister can do for you, but what you can do for a fellow sister'!!
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